MY MOM'S FUN GROUP

I remember as a teenager i used to admire my mother for her sets of friends........her club activities....her outings with  her friends.......
Although she used to take up her duties as a mother,wife and a house maker too well still she always found time for recreation......meeting her neighbors....friends......and she used to feel very happy.....

Over the years as i grew up i realized that she has an ability to make friends with even strangers with ease.....she would strike a conversation with anybody if she feels like doing so.....that is an admirable quality in her which continues till date.

Last month she fell sick. She got cut off from her social groups for almost a month due to her illness......
I found she was very eager to meet her peers as soon as she gets well......and moreover loved when somebody visited her home to inquire about her health.......slowly and slowly she recovered as at the age of seventy three it really takes time to get back to the original health level........
She had this thought at the back of her mind that she has to again mix up with her group of friends.

This whole episode put me to a thought process........
Generally as we grow old we start losing interest in keeping....maintaining friendship...........
Sometimes we avoid certain set of friends and at other times somebody avoids us.........
But the end result is the same.....that is we lose friends and lose opportunities to make and keep friendship alive........

I remember one more incident that of my father when he retired from his job......serving for around thirty five  years.....
Suddenly he found himself to be too free.....without any work...with very little responsibilities to be handled on daily basis.........
Too much time....and not much to look forward to during the day.....in the evening.......
Earlier he had a set routine of working in the office from nine to five....and had little time and option left for much serious social activity......now he hardly had any friends so to say.
He started feeling a little sad.......

Someone suggested him to visit a nearby park....or some community gathering... or a senior citizen group....
By and by he followed the suggestion and found for himself good learned friends......and groups..... like him....where he communicated well.....which brought his happiness back......

At any stage of life one definitely needs a group of people.....the fun group..... where one can interact freely.....that is quite rejuvenating........

A QUEST FOR A SOUL MATE

We meet different set of people in our life at different intervals.........
Some of the persons have fixed relation with us..... like parents,brother or sister, kids ........these relationships don't change with any change in time or permutation or combination........
Then there are changing or adapted relations say.....with spouse, friends.......

We tend to choose friends in accordance to our physical or mental disposition.........The friendship or relations remain healthy depending on how much compatible we are mentally...emotionally....socially.
We tend to get attracted towards people who have similar preferences....... or likes and dislike.

We are drawn more towards people who are on a similar platform....value the direction that should tread in this life.............are aware of the growth process..........have a desire to grow psychologically and spiritually.......

Spending time with such people is a treat in itself.......one doesn't feel the passage of time....the duration of time spent always seems to pass very fast...... although actually it might be a very long duration......

The exchange of thoughts enriches all or both......... emotionally and mentally..... encouraging and aggregating.......and if the closeness is more directed.......more piercing .......spiritual enhancement may also happen....the exchange at soul level........which is the basic quest of the being.

Who can be my soul mate.........Any other human being who has the greed...the quest for the similar purpose......is a potential soul mate....The scriptures also tell us that we should meet other entities to grow physically, mentally and spiritually.......

Generally we learn more in good positive company......so definitely if the exchange of views and concepts is within  people at similar wavelength.....it helps to accelerate the learning and growth process for both........

PLATONIC LOVE

Relationship between two individuals may be casual, social, emotional, and physical…….. or exchange and co ordinance at a higher level……may be platonic, psychological, spiritual.

Some persons are supportive and others give support…..Of course sometimes one has to take support and sometimes one gives support ………. Psychology of a human being is too complex to be understood in one go……sometimes I feel it is rather impossible to actually understand even a single person fully…….

Mind is so complicated with varied thoughts…negative as well as positive…..and let’s not forget that negative and positive…good or bad……virtue and vice …are all relative concepts …differing in their interpretation in different circumstances….

We eagerly try to understand the other individuals……but do we actually have the capability to know others well………

Probably more important  and appropriate introspection would be whether we have the capability to understand self……its needs physical, emotional, social, psychological…..…..its tendencies…….its aversions and influences…..its approach towards life………is it a balanced one or more materialistic or spiritual.

Basically we don’t understand ourselves…..me, myself……..then how can we understand anybody else.

I, self is the most closest to the being…still sometimes its own reactions are beyond acceptance……..we don’t accept because we don’t expect certain behavior or reactions from self………….

Why do we have relationships……..beyond social reasons there is a search or quest of the self for getting a feel of completeness…………..In itself…… self has a feeling of incompleteness……..an emptiness……a shallowness……a gap between it and fullness………so we start searching…… beyond self……. towards others…….

Can two or more incomplete entities make each other complete………I don’t think so.

Everyone is complete in itself…..just like Almighty……..

The need is to go beyond falseness of others…and falseness of self….

The quest is to fully understand, accept…approve…and be in a kind of platonic love for the thy self…

WHO WILL SPEND THE PENNY I SAVED

Comfortable living is anybody's dream......generally we spend our life time earning....saving......
more earning...n more saving.......We save for a child's education...marriage.....our old age.....
Someone more enterprising will save for helping children for their growth also....
A more dedicated one will save...invest for his whole generation.....may be unseen generations also.....

Why we do that....to safe guard ourselves....our generations.........or it is a mere tendency to get hold of that extra penny.......God does not give this chance of holding extra money to all..........and we can't take anything physical from this life after our death.....that everybody knows......still irony of the situation is that almost everybody who gets a chance is doing it.............without any discrimination of status....cast.....creed.

It is so amusing......to seeing every body trying to out do others with amazing zest and zeal......every opportunity is taken for that so called accumulation........
Sometimes i wonder if my parents...........or well wishers had saved some fortune for me.......what would have happened.......i would have learnt to enjoy the money for which i had no contribution in earning......

Without learning the value of a penny i would have been spending millions.....and that also without any awareness of whatever i am doing........why i am doing it.......without a second thought........millions would have gone down the drain.........leaving me may be heavier.............. without enhancing any values in me......may be instilling some negative traits as gift of surplus wealth............wealth without sweat......

Wealth with sweating.......working hard.....toiling ..........is it different......definitely so.......the happiness that emerged when i was paid the first time after the hard work was unlimited.......
The satisfaction of doing something for earning.......and holding the self earned money.....gives immense pleasure.....probably much more than expected.........spending such money always gives inner happiness.......peace........re-enforcing the level of growth with ever increasing capability............

Then why to not let the younger generation enjoy....... the taste of success.......satisfaction of accomplishing something big or even small................Why to steal their opportunity to experience the joy of creating.....excelling.......showing their true worth........

The elder generations of course should enjoy their life.......they deserve it........of course supporting their younger ones to become self reliant and creative..............