WHY DO I BITCH

I was having lunch with a friend at a local restaurant.There was a party going on, on the very next table.Some ten twelve beautifully dressed females were chit chatting happily, having gala time.

 Generally that is the scene while old friends meet after long time.I wonder what happens when they meet more frequently and go beyond the usual niceties....a marked change in behavior of some is witnessed....like true colors of the personality show up. The same set of old friends now become competitors and try to either outshine the other by bestowing about oneself or by degrading others.Why a change in stance for the same set of people is there.

Certainly there is change in the thinking process of the individual viz a viz that group after that comfort time which then tries to push others beyond the comfort zone. Closeness brings about familiarity and that in turn rises the level of comparison which sometimes turns to ugly competition...bitchiness....

Surely these are not healthy traits.It shows, as in some inner weakness or some frustration in life or some grave pain is at play. Deception is the basic trait in women and is as strong as lust is in men.....That's a known and accepted fact.Still every woman doesn't deceive and every man is not lustful.Why is it so?
A mother is recognized as an incomparable epitome of love and care.Why then such contrasts in behavioral pattern are existent.....

What does a particular behavior of a person show?
Does it reflect the actual inner condition of the psyche?

BE YOUR OWN GUIDE OR GURU

Down the passing years, while living the life everyone comes across different sets of people, from various backgrounds, with varied approach towards life.Some leave a pleasant impression in your mind where as others leave a bitter impact behind.Still everyone gives something or the other, giving some kind of trigger for the thoughts, leaving a big trail of thoughts and counter thoughts.

We all are in the process of evolution, some are a little or more ahead and others a little or more behind.Definitely we all are traveling the road called life.So we are all traveling more or less together.....some trying to lead and others trying to follow.

Everyone is still struggling with duality, pros and con in some condition if not in all circumstances.So for sure no one out of us has reached the destination, but at the same time everyone has the potential to reach the destination....the inherent capacity and intelligence to be there......That inbuilt affinity towards that unknown eternal goal is so strong that it is enough to know all....understand everything seen or unseen,explore all aspects.

We are constantly learning in each and every moment of life from each and everyone around us. Some teach us about one aspect of living while others show us another way to deal. So virtually everybody around us can be safely considered a Guru.We are learning from nature and from all living creatures alike.

No one else knows one better than oneself.No body can know one's actual condition as oneself. So no one else can know the solution  to the problem also as oneself. Anyone else can access to or address may be to some limited extent on physical or to still lesser extent on mental or on emotional level.So a general view point to solve issues is not appropriate as every individual works or thinks with different approach.

Generally speaking it either needs a life to understand another person or very close affection to know anybody else.How many persons we live with or have very close affinity towards.At the same time as we are on priority, concerned about ourselves, we know or can understand what exactly is required to be done, much better resolved than anybody.So why not to be your own guide or own Guru.Learning from everyone but still have reliability on self the most.